I offer counseling for all couples interested in improving their relationships. I have experience in helping a diverse range of couples from a variety of racial, ethnic, and spiritual backgrounds. I believe that love comes in a wide variety of forms. Couples can be either married or dating, gay or straight. I recognize that most couples seeking therapy are usually facing some issue they have been unable to resolve alone. The decision to enter couples counseling can often be a difficult one, so I am sensitive and supportive throughout all stages of the process.
My goal is to provide couples with tools to solve ongoing problems as well as to help them find greater levels of intimacy and understanding. I initially help couples discuss their issues in a constructive, non-threatening manner, including learning to avoid the most common mistakes in communication. Once healthy dialogue is established, the couple then works to resolve hurt feelings and overcome current problems and build future goals with the aid of a therapist.
When Should a Couple Seek Counseling?
Couples often ask, “When should a couple seek counseling?” The answer is most often: “Six months ago.”
Couples, especially those with busy work schedules and children, often put off coming to therapy, either because they are too busy with their daily schedules or they are denying that there is a need to come in for counseling at all. Often, couples are hesitant to talk about issues for fear of opening a much larger “can of worms.” Sometimes communication has broken down to the point of not being able to discuss even the smallest of issues.
If you recognize even one of these signs, the time to take action is now. Don’t wait until the relationship deteriorates even further. Relationships themselves are never bad, the interaction and communication between a couple is no longer working successfully and needs a “tune-up” to work more effectively. Often in cases such as these, counseling and/or a couples workshop can improve the skills needed to maintain a healthy, happy and fulfilling relationship. [top]
Commonly addressed issues in marriage counseling and couples therapy include:
- Communication problems
- “Firetrucking”/mind-reading behaviors
- Intense arguments
- Broken trust
- Premarital counseling
- Parenting conflicts
- Emotional distance
- Sexual problems
- Coping with addiction
- Adjusting to recent changes in relationship
- Inability to resolve ongoing conflict
- Frequent arguments
- Frequent feelings of anger, resentment or bitterness
- Poor problem-solving
- Inadequate support from your partner
- Lack of quality time spent together
- Feeling emotionally distant
- Not getting your needs met
- Lack of interest or affection [top]
If sexual issues are affecting your relationship, I can help you find and eliminate the obstacles that impede a healthy, exciting sex life. Please see my Sex Therapy page for a more detailed explanation.
Parent/Child Reunification Counseling
Parent/child reunification counseling can help to address issues of parental alienation. It aims to reintroduce and reinforce the bonds between a parent and child to create a healthy, lasting relationship. [top]
What is parental alienation?
Parental alienation is any behavior by either parent that creates estrangement in the relationship between the other parent and a child. Parental alienation can happen before, during or after a divorce.
Parental alienation can take the form of:
- Character insults
- Instilling fear of the other parent
- Using shame
- Showing excessive anger towards the other parent in front of the child
- Loss of control
- Making alliances with the child against the other parent
- Deliberate interference of the children’s relationship with the other parent
Parents that have been the target of parental alienation often feel:
Children that are experiencing Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) exhibit:
- Campaign against target parent
- Possess weak rationalizations for depreciation of the other parent
- Believes ill feelings are their own emotions and thoughts
- Support alienating parent, feel as though they can do no wrong
- Absence of guilt over cruelty to the alienated parent
- Use of other people’s experiences or memories in creating hateful thoughts
- Spread of hatred to extended family and friends of the alienated parent
Parent/Child Reunification Counseling can help parents and their children improve their relationship. [top]